Our ministries are an overflow of our relationships. In Episode #19 of the MWH Podcast, Robby Booth, unpacked the wisdom he's gained in his over 80,000 hours of counseling with ministry leaders and couples. Below are the 10 Steps he shared for Relationship Intentionality.
10 Steps of Relational Intentionality:
Purchase the books Changes That Heal and Safe People by Dr. Henry Cloud. Break the books into sections that are readable within an easy evening. Maybe two or three chapters at a time. If you’re married, have your spouse join you. Get together once a week and discuss or share four or five insights gained from that section that you read.
For couples: Affirm one another two times a day. Have a meaningful touch two or three times a day. Have some “in their world time.”
Live by priorities that are biblical for your ministry. The first priority is Jesus and our relationship with him. The second is with her spouse if we’re married. The Third is with children if we have children. The fourth is our Christian community that we call church. The fifth is the lost and dying world that we serve.
Be accountable. Don’t do life alone. No self sufficiency.
Romans 12:15. Two practical questions. "What can I be praying for for you? and "What can I celebrate?" This needs to be reciprocal
Google, great questions to ask one another to get to know one another better. If you’re a couple, each of you select one. each of you, ask one another your question as well as let your spouse, ask you the question you selected.
Linger longer in one another’s arms and when kissing one another until you feel it again, not by habit.
Fortify, sexual purity. Conquer series by Dr. Ted Roberts. Covenant eyes on all electronic devices. Have an accountability partner that’s same gender.
I have a day off once a week. Have fun. Play.
Resolve conflicts.
Resources Highlighted from this Interview:
Immunity to Change: How to Overcome It and Unlock the Potential in Yourself and Your Organization by Robert Kegan & Lisa Laskow Lahey
Changes That Heal by Dr. Henry Cloud
Safe People: How to Find Relationships That Are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren't by Dr. Henry Cloud
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